December 2019

“I don’t want to change myself”: You’ll change anyway

The whole idea of self-development, self-improvement, changing myself, becoming a better person: all that kind of way of looking at things can sometimes feel like a real chore. It can really feel like maybe an impossible task. Especially for somebody just starting out on this path, the idea of, well, I’m gonna try to change

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The gratitude cliché: Why does gratitude work?

It’s one of the biggest clichés in self-development that it’s important to have gratitude. It’s important to be grateful. Count your blessings. Some people recommend a gratitude meditation. Write down everything you’re thankful for in your gratitude journal. And, you know, if you’re having a bad day, sometimes the last thing you want to hear

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“Men do not rule circumstances”: The limits of free will

The previous video in this conversation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvLqalxSp9w Got a comment from Rasa on the topic of free will, pointing out that this concept of free will can be misused, misapplied, to suggest that basically everything in our lives is our choice. We choose to be who we are. And so whatever situation we’re in, anybody

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Loving the unlovable: Extending love to the unwanted

The previous video in this conversation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iySMIVDym4 Got a comment from viewer Words Words referring to an earlier comment, where a viewer felt unloved and unwanted. And Words Words’s comment was that everybody wants to be wanted, but by people that we want. And what about the people that nobody wants, mentioning the “poor, disabled,

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